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01724 296500

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01724 296555

Please visit www.northlincscmars.co.uk which is the new website in development for our multi-agency safeguarding arrangements. This LSCB website will be in place until June 2019 as a source of information and signpost to the Children's MARS website.

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The information below has lots of tips on how to stay safe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All the information you need for good emotional health and wellbeing in one place!

 

 

Life Central is a free emotional health and wellbeing website and app for young people.

 

 

 

It covers everything you need to know about:

  • Drugs and alcohol
  • Exercise
  • Eating well
  • Bullying
  • Sexual health
  • Emotional health and wellbeing
  • Youth Council
  • and more

Sometimes it can feel like everything is too much at home and you have no other choice but to leave. You always have a choice.

There are a lot of reasons why young people run away from home.  You might be having problems at home or at school, or you may even be being hurt or harmed in some way. It can feel like you’ve got no one to talk to, and that running away is the only option.  That is not true. There are lots of people who can help.

Missing People have a free and confidential helpline that is open 24 hours a day. You can talk to them in confidence and they will explain your options and try to get you the help you want.

Call: 116 000

Text: 116 000

Email: 116000@missingpeople.org.uk

Bullying is deliberately hurtful behaviour that is repeated over a period of time. This can be:

  • Name calling and teasing
  • Threats and extortion
  • Physical violence
  • Social exclusion
  • Spreading malicious rumours

Bullying does not just happen face to face. Sometimes bullying can happen through the internet or mobile phones.

There are many different types of bullying. These include:

  • Racist bullying
  • Homophobic bullying
  • Cyber bullying

There is lots more information on Bullying on the council website.

Childline – offers lots of advice on how to beat the bullies

CyberMentors is all about kids helping kids online. If you need help and support from another young person visit the CyberMentors website.

Useful Websites

BullyingUK – advice on what to do if you are being bullied at school

Kidscape – Advice and learn practical skills on how to deal with bullying

BeatBullying – is all about young people helping and supporting each other.

Homophobia – LGBT Youth can help support lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender young people. You can get in touch in a number of ways if you have a question, need advice or support, or are just looking for someone to talk to. Bullying is deliberately hurtful behaviour that is repeated over a period of time. This could be name calling and teasing, threatening you, physically hurting you, leaving you out of groups etc, saying nasty things about you to other people. Bullying does not just happen face to face. Sometimes bullying can happen through the internet or mobile phones. If you are being bullied, talk to your parents/carers or a buddy at school. Further information about types of bullying.

The Rights of a Child Charter sets out the rights of children in North Lincolnshire.

Charter for primary school children [PDF 2 Mb]

Rights for children charter [PDF 1 Mb]

Useful websites

United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child – the Convention on the Rights of the Child is the most rapidly and widely ratified international human rights treaty in history. It has changed the way children are viewed and treated

The Children’s Commissioner for England – the Children’s Commissioner promotes and protects children’s rights in England

Useful information

Young Persons Guide to Keeping Children Safe [1 Mb] – produced by the Office of the Children’s Rights Director

If you are worried about something or if you are worried about a friend you should talk to an adult you trust. Someone like a parent, carer or teacher. They can support you and may be able to help you find ways to improve your situation. Talking to an adult who you trust can help you see your situation more clearly and can give you new ideas to help make things better.

To call Childline ring 0800 1111. For an online chat visit their website.

You can also contact North Lincolnshire’s Children’s Services Duty Team on:

01724 296500 (9am to 5pm Monday to Thursday, 9am to 4.30pm Friday)

01724 296555 (answerphone – out of office hours and at weekends)

Relationships can be with a variety people and in different forms. They can be with a boyfriend or a girlfriend in heterosexual or same sex relationships. They can be with parents and step parents, with friends and peers and with other adults that you trust.

Being in a relationship can be exciting especially if that person makes you feel loved and special. It can also be scary, even if you started as friends or have known them for a long time. It’s perfectly normal to worry about whether they really like you or what your friends might think. Or even what may happen in the future. But what makes a good, healthy relationship?

What is a Healthy Relationship?

A good relationship is built on a number of things. Being in a healthy relationship means that you are:

  • listened to by the other person
  • respected by the other person, not bullied to do things you do not want to do
  • encouraged to have other friends and family
  • supported to be independent and to have a job or go to college
  • in a relationship where you feel safe
  • in a relationship where there is good communication, trust and compromise

This list is not exhaustive! Being in a relationship should be fun and you should be happy being with that person without being afraid or scared.

For further information about relationships visit the The Hideout website

Check out the short video Is this love?

What a Healthy Relationship is not

Being scared of the other person or being terrified of how they may react to something that you have done is not a healthy relationship.  Abuse in teenage relationships is more common than you may think. A study by the Home Office found that 25% of girls and 18% of boys had been hit or physically attacked by a partner.

The following could be an indication of relationship abuse. If you are with someone who:

  • makes you feel scared
  • humiliates you
  • isolates you from friends and family
  • forces you into doing things that you really don’t want to

For some help or advice check out the IDAS website

Sexual Orientation

If you fancy people then you have a sexual orientation. Most people will either fancy people of the opposite sex, people of the same sex or people of both sexes. The labels that are most often used to describe these types of sexual orientation are:

  • Straight (or heterosexual) – this means people fancy people of the opposite sex – so a boy who fancies girls or a girl who fancies boys
  • Gay (or homosexual) – this means people who fancy people of the same sex – so a boy who fancies boys or a girl who fancies girls. Gay doesn’t just refer to boys!
  • Lesbian – this means girls who fancy girls. A girl who fancies other girls might call herself lesbian or gay
  • Bisexual (or Bi) – this means people who fancy people of both sexes

Sometimes other words are used to describe people’s sexual orientation, but these words are the ones that organisations like schools and health services usually use. It’s useful to have some common words that everyone understands just to make life a bit easier. For example, a sexual health clinic might hold a ‘Lesbian Drop-In’ session to offer help just to women who fancy women. The fact that everybody knows what is meant by a service for lesbians means that the right people will use it.

Sometimes people may not be sure what their sexual orientation is and that’s fine as well. Every gay or bisexual person had to go through a process of realising that they weren’t straight and this can be a confusing time. We use words like those above to make life easier but that doesn’t mean that you should ever feel under any pressure to label yourself. Many people experience confusion over their sexuality and this is really normal. Some people may go through a phase where they have an attraction to someone of the same sex or experience strong feelings towards a same-sex friend. This may or may not mean that you are gay so never feel pressured to fit into a particular group. Feelings are complicated things!

If you do feel that you are either gay or bisexual you may decide to come out to friends or family. If you want to know more check out the Stonewall website.

Where to go for help, advice and support

Childline – chat online, ask questions on message boards or ring direct to get support

This is Abuse – a site dedicated to relationship abuse. Contains advice, videos and spotting the signs of an abusive relationship

The Hideout – a site designed to help children and young people understand domestic abuse

Respect not Fear – advice on contraception and sexual health

Brook – relationships and sex advice

Stonewall – information on sexual orientation

There are lots of reasons why some parents split up.  Often it’s because one or both of them is unhappy.  It’s not your fault that this is happening. Your parents still love you. Divorce is a temporary thing as your family readjusts itself. Hang on in there. There is always someone to talk to. Check out the CAFCASS booklet [PDF 1Mb]

Take a look at our BE SMART Leaflet – it has been written for children by children and shows you how to stay safe on the internet.

To learn more about staying safe when you use the internet, visit www.thinkuknow.co.uk

The CBBC website also has some great tips on internet safety.

If you think someone has acted inappropriately towards you online or someone you know, you can report it to CEOP now or by visiting the thinkuknow website

If you are worried about anything, it could be something big or something small. Don’t bottle it up. It can really help if you talk to someone. If there is something on your mind, contact ChildLine.

ChildLine’s new campaign, #ListenToYourSelfie, helps you spot the signs of grooming and unhealthy relationships, both online and offline. New figures from ChildLine show that the number of counselling sessions for online sexual abuse worries rose last year by 24% to 3,716.

Source: NSPCC press release Date: 19 September 2016

Further information: Healthy and unhealthy relationships

Children with Special Educational Needs and/or Disabilities have the same rights as any other child to be protected and cared for properly.

The Local Offer website provides information on staying safe, early help, resources, services, support, activities and events for North Lincolnshire’s children and young people with Special Educational Needs and/or Disabilities and their families. Information is arranged according to age from pre-school through to early adulthood

DO NOT DO
DO NOT talk to strangers

Never accept a lift from strangers

DO walk to and from school with friends in groups
DO NOT take gifts from people you do not know DO tell someone you trust if someone is making you feel uncomfortable.  If someone is asking you to do something you are not happy about, shout out loud to get help

DO report all suspicious behaviour and “new adult friends” to parents / carers

DO NOT take shortcuts DO stay on the main roads and follow the route that your parents/carers have shown you
DO NOT leave home without telling your parents / carers where you are going DO tell your parents / carers where you are going when you leave the house
DO NOT stray from your friends DO make sure you and your friends stay together even if you fall out

DO tell your parents / carers where you are going when you leave the house

DO make sure your mobile is charged

DO NOT Bully DO be kind and respectful to each other.

Road safety

Keep safe on the road. Teenagers are vulnerable on the roads, particularly if they are distracted by mobile phones, MP3 players or anything else that takes their attention away from the road. Always fasten your seat belt when you are travelling by car. Car occupants make up the biggest injury group in the UK.  Always wear a a protective helmet when you are cycling and learn about cycle safety.

For further information about road safety visit any of the following websites:

Or contact the Road Safety Team at North Lincolnshire Council on 01724 297346 or 01724 297355

 

Safety around Trains

Child deaths are very rare but young adults are more at risk, especially when they drive or cycle. Visit the Network Rail website for advice on rail safety.

Water safety

During the school holidays, and in particular in hot weather, increasing numbers of children put themselves at risk of drowning. (RoSPA)

Always follow the Water Safety Code. Remember that water can look safe but it can be dangerous. Just because you are able to swim in an indoor pool does not mean you will be able to swim outside in a lake or the sea. Be aware of the dangers of water which are:

  • It is very cold
  • There may be hidden currents
  • It can be difficult to get out (steep or slimy banks)
  • It can be deep
  • There may be hidden rubbish such as shopping trolleys, broken glass
  • There are no lifeguards
  • It is difficult to estimate depth
  • It may be polluted and make you ill.

For information about water safety visit the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents website and the Child Accident Prevention Trust website.

Fire Safety

The Humberside Fire and Rescue website has lots of useful information on staying safe in the home, bonfire night safety and preparing for emergencies.

The 5rights initiative is aimed at creating a new framework for empowering young people online – 5Rights takes the existing rights of children and young people (under 18), and articulates them for the digital world. 5Rights is about giving you the power to control things when you are online or playing games. Whether its knowing exactly what you’ve signed yourself up to when you tick the box agreeing those ridiculously long Ts & Cs that nobody reads, or being able to really easily remove any picture, posting or whatever else you put online, 5Rights is about giving you the power.

Social media

North Lincolnshire Youth Council led the development of Be SMART – a social media charter for young people, schools and families. the charter encourages young people to be aware of what could happen if social media is used in the wrong way.

Learn the underwear rule [PDF 1Mb] to help keep yourself safe.  It is a child friendly guide produced by the NSPCC.